40 before 40

Do you ever think about things you’d like to accomplish in the next year or two years?  Five years??  Ten years?!?  Do you have a mental to-do list filled with these activities and/or goals?  Have you taken the time to commit them to paper?  Or shared them others?  I initially shared my ’40 before 40′ list last year when I started to blog, however, I ended up needing to focus on other things last year and didn’t end up doing much with the blog.

I’ve updated my list and changed a few things!  That’s the beauty of your own to-do lists: you can do with them what you want 🙂

Before I made my ’40 before 40′ list there were many times I would say or think ‘I’d love to do that!’ – and then I would go on about my busy, scatterbrained day, and forget all about it.  In an attempt to not only remember but also to accomplish these things, I’ve complied this list of the things I would like to do before I turn 40.  Before I made my list I decided that:

I would choose both achievable goals and big goals.


Putting achievable goals on your list will encourage you to continue moving forward.  It’s always a great motivator to mark things off your list and to visually see your list changing shape.


Setting big goals encourages you step out of your comfort zone and really push yourself!  Striving to reach the big goals will require hard work and commitment.  The payout is extraordinary!


 

If you don’t have a version of a ’40 before 40′ list I encourage you to make one. You can set any number of goals to be completed by any date!  Have fun with it!

*Just to clarify – I have a house full of boys…. So when I say ‘boys’ on my list, I’m referring to my hubby (whom I also call Papa Bear) as well as our three sons.

  1. Learn to play the piano
  2. Take a walk in the rain
  3. Have an all-day movie marathon with my boys
  4. Go to Washington DC
  5. Take my kids to see the ocean – (Any of the oceans will do)
  6. Take a girls trip – Pigeon Forge with my mom and sisters Dec 2016
  7. Vacation somewhere new with my boys
  8. Have a picnic at the park – Summer 2016
  9. Take the kids to a Reds game
  10. Visit my Granny’s grave in Kentucky
  11. Take my boys to a planetarium – Adler Planetarium, Chicago, Spring Break, Mar 2017
  12. See a play or symphony
  13. Take a trip with Papa Bear – San Antonio, TX Jan 2017
  14. Volunteer
  15. Sell our house – July 2016
  16. Find our ‘Forever Home’ or at least one that we can settle into until the boys graduate high school
  17. Visit California – June 2016
  18. Go back to Las Vegas
  19. Learn to speak Spanish well
  20. Read more
  21. Get a tattoo – or not…. just decide already!
  22. Complete Financial Peace University
  23. Get out of debt – stay that way!
  24. Build a savings account
  25. Go to the zoo with my boys Fort Wayne Zoo, several times, Summer 2017
  26. Take each son individually on a mommy date ❤
  27. Host a Murder Mystery dinner party
  28. Get on a better sleep schedule
  29. Become more knowledgeable about Essential Oils
  30. Decide what I want to be when I grow up
  31. Go to a hockey game
  32. Take a family trip with family friends – Chicago, Spring Break, Mar 2017
  33. Learn to budget properly
  34. Get my nose pierced – Dec 2016
  35. Start a blog – revamped Jan 2018
  36.  Go to a drive-in movie
  37.  Visit a foreign country
  38.  Take a road trip with my bestie
  39.  Fly First Class
  40. Tour a castle

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading my list and are encouraged to make a list of your own!

What types of things would you put on your list??  Leave your comments below ❤

 

Self-Doubt

Do you ever feel like you should do #allthethings??  I do.  I mean, I literally do.  If I see something that I know I can do, or that interests me, I feel like I should be doing it.  On top of that, I’m ultra impressionable – if I see someone doing something that I admire, it makes me want to do it too.  I was also born with an entrepreneurial mind.  I see business potential in everything around me.  And because I like #allthethings and want to be #allthethings and do #allthethings I end up mentally exhausted #allthetime.

Realistically, I know doing #allthethings is not an option.  I’m one person, right?!?  But I can promise you, on a regular basis, I feel like I should be doing them.  It’s a viscous mental cycle that offers me no rest.  So it’s hard to know what I want to do with myself when I can’t focus on one thing for any length of time.  And because I’m exhausted from all the mental gymnastics, I never actually commit.  I end up hanging out in limbo-land.  COMMIT is my One Word for 2018 – you can read more about that here.

Now, to be honest, I have owned a couple of small craft businesses that were successful for a time.  Success is another one of those subjective words, so let me clarify- my businesses always made a profit.  Never a ton of money, but a decent supplement to my husbands income.  The nice thing about owning your own craft business is you can try #allthethings if you want to!  And I did.  I took a lot of custom orders which kept things fresh and fun… for a time.  I loved working those businesses, until I didn’t.  I eventually gave each one up because I found myself lacking desire and commitment while being mentally pulled off into new directions.

In an effort to narrow my mental focus, I’ve decided to start writing more.  I want let go of the noise constantly fighting for my attention and settle my focus.

This, my friends, is where the self doubt comes pouring in.  What am I going to write about?  Does anyone want to hear what I have to say?  Are my thoughts my own?  Will those closest to me read my blog and think ‘geesh she is trying hard to be something she’s not.’  Will anyone relate to me?

As a blogger, how do you find the courage to open up if you don’t really know where you are going?  Is it incredibly narcissistic to think I have something worth saying?  Oh, how I envy those with the confidence to know.  They have found their place, their passion, their purpose.  My goal is to join them someday soon.

 

New Year, New You?

Welcome 2018!  It’s hard to believe we are ushering in a brand new year!  It doesn’t seem like that long ago, I was making my list of goals for 2017.  Each year, around the first of January, my husband and I take some time to think about things we would like to accomplish or improve on during the coming year.  We also like to reflect on our goals from the previous year.  While I’ve had some minor success achieving my goals over the years, I’m gonna be honest with you – more often than not, I’m in the exact same place I was when I wrote them down.  The goals I tend to set for myself are often vague and general.

Does anyone else do this?  Are you a goal setter?  Do you start each January with a ‘New Year, New You’ mentality?  Setting goals can be super motivating and the beginning of a new year always seems like just the right time to start.

I’ve only recently noticed that I choose goals that are not easily measured.  I suppose I think it saves me from facing “total failure” at the end of the year when I’m reflecting on how well I did or didn’t do.  For instance, I have been known to set the goal ‘Go to bed early’ instead of a more specific goal like ‘Go to bed at 10pm.’  ummmmm – early is subjective!  Undefined goals allow me lots of wiggle room when I’m rating my progress for the year.  And while playing it safe is definitely easier on my pride, (again -who likes to fail??) it makes it hard to summon motivation to work towards those goals and harder still, to feel like I ever actually achieve them.

In addition to padding my pride, and fear of failure, I find that I just can’t commit to setting specific goals.  I have so many different inspirations, aspirations, interests and hobbies that it’s really hard for me to narrow down my focus enough to make a concrete decision about anything – even something as seemingly simple as selecting my goals.

So, this year I’ve decided to try something new and participate in the One Word movement.  The idea behind One Word is to pick a single word that you would like to focus on throughout the year.  You can choose any word that speaks to you.

I love SO many words! Grace, Joy, Shine, Focus, Bright, Hope, Blessed, Intentional, Renew – the list goes on.  But, because I feel like I’m in constant limbo, lacking intentional direction right now, it only makes sense that my word for 2018 is:

commit

I’m excited to explore commitment in various aspects of my life.  And I’m desperate to narrow my focus and have some direction!!!

I plan to use this blog as a place to log my journey as I learn to focus on my word and to commit to personal growth.  I am excited to see where this takes me!

Have you ever participated in the One Word movement?  Do you have your word already chosen??  If you haven’t ever tried it, I invite you to choose One Word and see where it takes you!